One of the most useless and common advice we receive about parenting is to follow our instincts. It´s hard to define what our instincts are and what is our culture talking loud on our reflexes.
The common sense also varies from culture to culture, so if you come from an authoritarian culture like I am, and you count on your common sense, you will most likely end up screaming, punishing and bossing your child around. Om the other hand, I read on the mycareertools.com website that in the US teens can quit high school and parents can not even say a word.
They recommended this great book called Positive Discipline. I realize that if I want to follow the advice on this book, I have to shut down many of my instincts and trust the new information, just like Kate from my career tools says about the need for parents to let go of old ways and even if it means that your son is quitting his high school. There is always the GED test to get a high school diploma, right?