“The only thing all successful people have in common is that they’re successful, so don’t waste your time copying “the successful strategies” of others.” -Seth Godin
I’ve written before about how all personal development books are flawed. I’ve come to realize that much of what is written about personal growth in books and blogs are more like a series of epiphanies the author had throughout their life rather than solid unarguable facts.
The advice I read is best applied when I filter it.
When I dismiss what I, intuitively, know doesn’t resonate with me.
When I creatively adjust what could resonate with me… if only…
And when I accept what I know in my heart is what’s best for ME (even if it makes me uncomfortable).
If you’re reading this and thinking… ‘well, duh… of course you have to filter advice’… then that’s great, but what seems like common sense for some, isn’t for someone who might be lacking self-confidence.
And the personal growth industry tends to target people who are on the lower end of the confidence scale.
I’m one of those people.
I’m someone who has spent a long time trying to “measure up” or achieve some level of worthiness.
If you’ve ever felt that way, even temporarily, then you’ll understand how easily such fears and insecurities can be exploited in a world that is finding ever more ways to define what is success and failure, differentiate what makes someone remarkable or mediocre, and measure your authenticity.
A while back, I read this quote on facebook by Joel Salatin, founder of Polyface Farms: “If you think organic food is expensive, have you priced cancer lately?”
Now, I’m not sure if he’s trying to sell organic food, trying to cure cancer, or both. Either way, it’s insensitive marketing. Not to mention, misleading.
I can’t tell you how many stories I read about people who do “everything right” and find themselves sitting in a doctor’s office trying to process the worst news of their life.
Cancer doesn’t discriminate. It’s NOT your fault. And you’re not guaranteed a free pass just because you’re on the Paleo diet.
I realize that there are health benefits to eating organic, I’ve read all the scientific research, but yet again, someone is exploiting our fears and our vulnerable need for hope, and I am MORE than over it.
The last few months, I went through a period of feeling like I was on autopilot. I was putting stuff out there not sure if I totally believed in it. I have become so used to consuming information and taking it at face value, that I didn’t know why I resonated with certain ideas to begin with.
It takes some confidence and humility to let go.
To trash the ideas you were trying to swear by because you realize they don’t suit you. You realize they were influenced by a successful someone you admire.
Sometimes, you gotta fire the mentor and choose YOU. Then you can finally get off auto pilot.
Then the mentor becomes a peer. A person who can inspire you AND challenge you to come up with your own ideas and creations that are uniquely you.